Monday, December 19, 2011

You Can't Always get what you Want or Can You


There is an old Rolling Stones song entitled " You Can't Always get What you Want" I used to believe that until just a short time ago when I realized one thing. What was that one thing you might ask ? The people who always get what they want do so because they refuse to accept less.
There was a point in my life when I thought that less was more and that if I got something that was all that mattered. That has been the case for work, relationships and "stuff" in general. It took me a number of years to realize this but now I understand. If I want a better job, I have to hold out for the best most ideal perfect fit job for me the so-called dream job .
The only reason it is a dream for the rest of us is because we cannot visual ourselves in a position of employment that we actually like and satisfies all of our needs, a job we feel good going to. We call these jobs "dream" jobs because we were taught by our families that work was just that a means to make money and create stability no matter how boring or unfulfilled they are.
So work became just that a lifelong drudge that was supposed to be a means to an end becomes the end. We work in unfulfilled jobs look forward to retirement do nothing when we get there and die never having lived.
I am making a transition in my work life and it is going be better than my present work because I will be under control. Not the incompetent shrew who is currently the principal of the school that I am assigned to . Not glad handing union representatives, not teachers jealous that I make more money than them just me .
I am also making a transition in relationships. I was in a unfulfilled relationship that was as boring and mundane as my job with a woman who was more into controlling the person that I was and not helping me realize my potential . She used passive-aggressive tactics to try and keep me under control but I took it thinking that it would get better that love would enter our marriage again and I should not leave to find someone who really loved me . AT that point I realized that it was important that I look for the person that I can have a loving relationship the person who sends me me , who I send. I am not looking just to date I am looking for the one. I now know what I want and I will not rest until I get it and I will not settle for second best. I hope the person that I am interested in understands this and realizes that I now want to live my life, I want to live it with someone who also wants to live not someone who is waiting to die.
You can always get what you want if you are not willing to settle for what you need . The only person who knows what you need is you . I need to live and I will do what is necessary to make that happen.

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